Is it selfish for pregnant mother to get rid of “posthumous child”? It’s sad for people to tell their experiences

Two days ago, I saw a pregnant mother posting that she had just found out that she was more than two months pregnant when her husband died unexpectedly. She was too sad and had a threatened abortion. Because she couldn’t withstand the blow and couldn’t afford to raise children, she wanted to get rid of the pain of her husband’s death and start a new life. My parents in law also understand this because they are too old to support their children. The key is that my husband also has a brother with children, which may be the reason why my parents in law are willing to give up their “posthumous son”. < / P > < p > but when she told her friends about the idea, everyone said she was selfish. After all, this is the only bone and blood left by my husband in the world. If I kill him, there will be nothing left. Some netizens also commented that they hoped she would keep the children, “just for the mother.”. < / P > < p > what I want to say is my neighbor’s sister-in-law, who was similar to this pregnant mother when she was young. At that time, she felt that she was unable to raise children and wanted to kill them. But her parents-in-law scolded her for having no conscience and wanted to break their family, so her husband’s relatives and friends advised her to leave her husband’s only blood. Later, she couldn’t withstand some moral charges, so she gave birth to a child. < p > < p > but less than a year after delivery, her parents in law died one after another. She raised her children alone, not only to take care of her children, but also to work, and also to drag her mother’s family to help. However, none of the men’s relatives who advised her to keep the children came forward to help her. Even, in order to snatch her property, she was advised to remarry. Although she has raised her child to a teenager now, she always says, “I am worthy of my father-in-law and friends, but I am sorry for me and my child. Because the child was born without a father, I suffered a lot of bullying from childhood, and my life has also been involved. ” < / P > < p > the experience of this past person is very sad. As a matter of fact, it is the pregnant mother’s personal choice whether to have a posthumous child or not, and no one else can carry out moral kidnapping. Because we are not her, we can’t feel the feeling that she is powerless and has no intention to raise her children under the pain of her husband’s death. We won’t help her when she can’t afford to raise a child. In this case, how can we kidnap others with virtue? < / P > < p > since it’s the pregnant mother’s choice, we should consider it clearly before choosing. If you want to have a baby, you need to look at the experience of the past and consider a series of issues such as production, parenting and bringing up the baby. After all, without a husband, it’s too difficult for a woman to be both a father and a mother, to make money and to bring a baby. In particular, it is even more difficult for the family members to help raise their children without the help of their parents in law. < / P > < p > therefore, in addition to emotional and moral problems, pregnant mothers should also consider practical problems. Otherwise, if you can’t afford it, not only will you have a hard life, but also your child’s life will be miserable. < / P > < p > If a pregnant mother does not intend to give birth to a “posthumous child”, she should also be prepared, because many people will accuse her of this kind of behavior, and will kidnap and condemn her “selfish” behavior with morality. I think my husband is gone, and if my only blood is gone, my pregnant mother will be a sinner through the ages. < / P > < p > however, since the husband has passed away, the marriage relationship will be ended, and no one owes or should. Living people can’t live in the shadow of the dead. If we get out of the pain early and live a normal life, the dead may understand. Focus