Raising children and daughters is the same? It’s a different experience in less than 20 years

With the full opening up of the two child policy, many families are actively joining in. Unlike those who want to have two sons or dream of making a good word, many parents feel that it is the same to have two children and have a daughter. However, as the children grow up, they find that their original ideas are too naive. < p > < p > Baoma Lanlan is also a second child mother. As the first child is a son, when she decided to have a second child, she specifically asked her husband whether he had gender expectations for the second child. At that time, her husband replied that it was the same to give birth to children and daughters. If it was the same pain to give birth to a daughter, it would be the same to give birth to a son. < p > < p > seeing her husband’s calm attitude, Lan Lan began to prepare for her second child. During the whole pregnancy, she was not as worried about her baby’s gender as other pregnant mothers did. LAN LAN can be said to have a relaxed and happy life. < p > < p > after 10 months of pregnancy, Lan Lan gave birth to a big fat boy, and the family has been immersed in the joy of having a child, but before long, LAN LAN and her husband fell into anxiety. < p > < p > because the family’s economic conditions are not very good, but now the betrothal gifts and house prices are rising. Originally, one son is burdened with a lot of burden, but now he and his wife feel a lot of pressure. < / P > < p > many parents are indifferent before giving birth to a second child. They think it’s no difference to have a child and have a daughter. However, after the birth of the child, their attitudes are different, and the problems they face are all different. In less than 20 years, parents may experience different feelings. < / P > < p > if there is only one child or two children of the same gender, it is good to say that they can adopt the same educational attitude. However, if it is a family with one child and one daughter, many parents are likely to have difficulties in education. At present, people in China advocate “raising children in poverty and raising daughters in wealth”. Because most girls are married, they will not be wronged in the future only if they are well-informed and have a long-term vision. However, their sons will lose their motivation and ability in the honeypot and will not be able to achieve a career when they grow up. < / P > < p > in today’s secular world, people don’t have so many requirements for dowry. If the family’s economic conditions are good, they can marry more things, but if they are ordinary, they won’t say anything if they marry less. However, betrothal gifts are mandatory requirements, and even a wedding room should be bought. Most men need financial support from their families when they get married and buy a house. Therefore, the financial pressure will be much less if there are only daughters in the family, while the family pressure of having two sons can be imagined. < / P > < p > in addition, in a family with one child and one daughter, although the parenting pressure on the daughter side will be less, it will make the daughter feel unfair. In the long run, it is easy to intensify conflicts and lead to family crisis. < / P > < p > men and women are different in gender and personality. Most daughters are gentle and delicate, and boys are naughty. Therefore, in the process of rearing, parents take more measures and pay different emotions. Generally speaking, girls preach and boys teach. < / P > < p > however, the difference between parents and children is likely to arouse their dissatisfaction. Daughters will envy their parents’ directness and sincerity towards their sons, while sons will often envy their parents’ gentle consideration for their daughters, which may lead to a series of “competing for favor” behaviors. < / P > < p > in a two child family with one child and one daughter, while instilling the idea of equality into their children, parents also need to restrain their own thoughts and behaviors, so as to achieve fairness and justice, balance as much as possible, and meet the needs of children. However, they need to tell their daughters that they can’t just enjoy and their sons can’t just ask for them. < / P > < p > in fact, some troubles are brought by parents themselves, so when they don’t know how to balance two children, parents need to be willing to let go and not participate too much in the children’s life. Let them make their own choices, develop freely, and work on their own. Maybe the situation will be suddenly bright. Focus