The continuous rotation of the fertility machine, 15 years born 8 spell “son”, Baoma: do you want to include the removed

I always thought that “valuing men over women” was the stubborn idea of the older generation. Until recently, I went back to my hometown and stayed in my hometown for a few days. I learned something that I thought was very far away from us. < / P > < p > you know, people of my grandparents’ generation will have 89 or more children, so I don’t think it’s strange that the older generation will have so many children, because it is a kind of normal for people of that era. However, the treasure mother in our village, who is 40 years old, lives near my home. When I went home, she also brought her children out to play. She was a boy. I always heard that her mother-in-law preferred boys to girls. Seeing that she gave birth to a son, she joked to her, “it’s easy. The task is completed.” < / P > < p > who knows she sighed, “where can it be easy to have a boy? Sometimes my father-in-law says some ugly words directly in front of me. His speech is really irritating. He also says that I have so many daughters to collect debts.” < / P > < p > I asked her how many babies she had, and she said to herself, “do you want to count the ones taken away? If you don’t count the lines. ” After listening, I was still surprised, because although I was a neighbor, I seldom went to know the specific situation. < / P > < p > in order to fight for a son, that Baoma gave birth to eight sons in 17 years. The first seven were daughters, and the last one was a son. It’s hard to imagine how she persevered. I think a large part of the reason is due to the strong attitude of her parents in law, and her weak personality, which leads to this situation. < / P > < p > in my opinion, in the past 17 years, she has been like a “reproductive machine”. She also said that she didn’t want to have another child after having two daughters. The reason why she gave birth to so many later was always talked about by her father-in-law and her husband seldom interfered in such matters, so that the pressure was borne by her alone. < / P > < p > it’s true that using “fertility machine” to describe a woman is a big blow, but it’s still necessary to remind female friends not to be other people’s “fertility machine” and to have their own opinions. < / P > < p > too many births may damage your health. My neighbor, who had so many children, and has never had a good rest, is now suffering from a lot of sequelae, which is hard to make up for. < / P > < p > the uterus is the second life body of women. The more the number of births, the more the function of the uterus will be consumed, which will have a greater impact on women’s body. Therefore, women should control the number of births within 3-5 times in their life, and can not blindly give birth. < / P > < p > < p > maybe you think women in that era had so many children? But what you don’t know is that most women at that time also had reproductive system diseases, especially uterus and cervical problems! < / P > < p > a man’s attitude is very important. One of my cousins has two daughters, and my uncles and aunts have always been worried about her. After all, my cousin’s mother-in-law has two sons. The eldest son is infertile and adopted a boy. The younger son married my cousin. Now my cousin has two more daughters, so the old man’s heart is itchy < / P > < p > I asked my cousin a similar question earlier: “will you be reborn in the future? Didn’t your mother-in-law ask you to regenerate? ” At that time, the answer given by my cousin was sprinkled with a handful of dog food. < / P > < p > “my husband said that he didn’t have to worry about it and asked me not to have psychological pressure. He would tell my mother-in-law that we just want to have two. He said that I would live with him in the future, not with my mother-in-law, so there was no need to hide this knot.” My cousin is full of happiness when she says these words. < p > < p > it can be seen that men’s attitude is crucial to women. If men can have their own ideas, have a certain right of speech at home, be good at mediating between parents and wives, and better handle the contradictions between each other, then women will not have children for the sake of childbirth! On the contrary, my neighbor’s husband only escapes, and sometimes even criticizes his wife when there is a conflict between his wife and his parents. He thinks it is her duty to have children. Such a husband is really not responsible. < / P > < p > later, I also thought about such a problem. This kind of situation exists around me. Does it mean that it is not uncommon? How many other moms are going through the same dilemma? < / P > < p > think about it or write this article. I hope to use the example of neighbors to alert female friends that they should have children for their own sake, rather than for other people’s “son preference”. Eugenics are always better than multiple births. This is not only responsible for themselves, but also for every child born. Your name will always exist on the Internet